Delving into the nature of Big Love versus little love (aka romance, human relationships, etc.), DIL DEEPLY IN LOVE by Neena Paul defines such concepts relative to Reality because, according to Paul, “You can love people around you only if you love your own self.” The goal: transforming the Self into someone who can love with depth inwardly, rather than keeping intention exclusively focused outwards on other people. Once human beings begin looking inward for connection, understanding, and satisfaction, what they will find, says Paul, is the profound Force that created Everything, otherwise known as unconditional, omnipotent Love with a capital ‘L.’
Coming from a life of success that shockingly collapsed as recognition was reduced to allegations and everyone close to the author jumped ship, Paul began searching for meaning beyond fame and social acclaim. As she replaced “tears with prayer, and fears with faith,” miracles started to occur. She merged with Love for and of the Creator, and found purpose in helping others do the same. This created a simpler, richer life which became brighter than the sun…as Life can be for readers too, Paul promises. Interactive tasks are provided that should be undertaken for at least 13 consecutive days in order to begin seeing tangible change. These tasks include affirming each morning and before going to bed every night that one loves themselves, calling one’s parents daily even if briefly, and being grateful to every part of one’s body. The pearls of wisdom offered are straightforward, noting things like that while exaggeration may satisfy ego and pride, total naked honesty at least with oneself releases false expectations, within and without.
The main issue with the book is that in some ways the advice and tasks feel randomly strung together rather than effectively crafted with momentum which intentionally, skillfully builds. One can reach the end of the text wondering if that’s all there is. This may or may not bother some readers. Still, Paul points out that a common question asked in her coaching sessions revolves around suddenly feeling better even if one doesn’t yet see practical transformation taking place. The author’s response may apply equally to the book: there’s ‘active growth’ apparent outwardly, and there’s ‘passive growth’ which occurs internally as one become more conscious of the nature of existence. The latter generally precedes the former.
Considering the vast market of books that exist about how to fall and remain madly, deeply, truly in love, Neena Paul’s slender self-help volume DIL DEEPLY IN LOVE–which focuses mainly on learning to connect with oneself–is a breath of fresh, interactive air.
~C.S. Holmes for IndieReader