The beginning of CONNECT WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS builds a strong foundation for exploring the purpose of relationships. Openly sharing that her last marriage and separation were catalysts for asking difficult questions, author Maria Fudas dismisses the concept of “failure” in this realm and focuses on resulting lessons to encourage personal growth. Other valuable observations–frequently reiterated throughout–emphasize developing self-awareness and claiming responsibility to create healthy relationships. However, those mired in complex situations may find imperatives “to get up and start over” simplistic. Sections with specific steps, including eating well and adding movement to daily routines, help strengthen the usefulness of these suggestions.
A few sections of the book may prompt readers to pause further. Descriptions of women as “people pleasers” and men as “natural born hunters” may carry kernels of truth, but stem from stereotypes. Declarations such as “For heavens sake, allow him to be ‘the man’ he needs to be by taking care of you” may give rise to other objections. In addition, the cheer-leading tone, which often addresses “ladies,” sometimes goes over the top. An excessive use of exclamation points appears throughout the book in examples such as “Believe it! You can do it! You are worth it!” A reliance on capitals, as in “GET OUT” if you are in an abusive relationship, is offered before stressing the importance of assertive communication.
The overriding messages about happiness as an “inside job,” finding solutions and creating your best self remain useful for those interested in self-improvement and recovery from life’s bumps. Along with discussions of clearly expressing your needs to resolve problems, CONNECT WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS offers multiple tools such as visualization and positive thinking to help others experience greater fulfillment in their lives.
Many other sections, with the clear intention of offering support and encouragement, are asterisk or highlight worthy. Some of these address taking time for self-care, treating yourself like a best friend and refusing mistreatment or disrespect. Illuminating discussions include the impact of assertive communication on personal and business relationships, the “gift” of lessons from relationships and the removal of negative and “disempowering” beliefs that are “like weeds that are taking over your peaceful mind.” As one of several particularly effective images in CONNECT WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS, this book is one that calls for refresher readings at periodic intervals.
CONNECT WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS by Maria Fudas is an important reminder that relationships are a reflection of our inner thoughts and perceptions. Building on lessons from her own personal experiences, the certified assertiveness training coach offers helpful tips to strengthen connections and the ability to “live in awe.”
~Andrea K. Hammer for IndieReader