Author Debra Rogers shares her own experience of loser boyfriends; finding her Prince Charming and married him, only to discover when she was eight months pregnant that he was having an affair. From the depths of self-destructive shame, embarrassment, she one day realized “He did you a favor.”
Debra Rogers asserts that this happens so you can grow, learn and live a more fulfilling life. HE DID YOU A FAVOR isn’t about focusing on the break up or what’s wrong with you and your life, but what is right and good in your life and how to make it better. And while Rogers does offer numerous positive philosophies and practical strategies to move forward with life and boosting self-confidence,
Rogers respects the need to grieve on all levels. Rogers even offers tips on throwing the ‘sweet, epic, pity party’ that include ordering your favorite food and games to manifest positive changes like writing down obsessive thoughts and then tearing up the paper. Roger’s offers numerous activities to facilitate letting go and moving forward. However also addresses very realistic setbacks and situations like rebound relationships or taking in your Ex or obsessing about the new woman.
While some of the philosophy and strategies are not unique, the message about emotionally empowering young women is compelling. Rogers also offers a plethora of no-nonsense, practical coping and growing technique and does an effective job of making the well-rounded, comprehensive material easy to absorb and visually appealing with organized, clear charts, bullet points and text boxes. Rogers includes stories that give insight into women’s real break-up and bad relationship experiences without miring the reader in unnecessary details. The strategies that include the pity part, gratitude journals and a relationship resume also address all periods of the breakup and the rebuilding of self,
HE DID YOU A FAVOR is a perfect primer for young women to boost confidence and be in the right place emotionally and mentally either after a break up or to get in gear for a relationship.
Reviewed by Maya Fleischmann for IndieReader.